This is an idea advocated by Tony Robbins, the famous life and business coach. In life we’re constantly chasing more: more money, more friends, a bigger house, a bigger career.
But instead of chasing and expecting more, Robbins argues that you must focus on what’s there. Be appreciative and grateful of what you have.
Appreciation instead of expectation removes fear and anxiety, because there is nothing more to need. And as with a lot of things, being appreciative often leads to more. Or as Robbins puts it:
When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears.
This concept applies to many things in life, not just your own mindset. It also influences your state: appreciate what a colleague delivers instead of focusing on what’s missing for example.
It’s a hard one to change your mind like this, but it’s very rewarding.